Sex Matters - Frequently Asked Questions 1

1.   I am a 20 year old man and have had sex once in my life. I have been close to having sex many times. The first time I wasn't able to gain an erection because I was nervous. I have no trouble getting an erection by myself and now every time I go to have sex I am worried that I won't be able to get an erection. I have a girlfriend now and have talked about it a little but still feel uncomfortable. I have seen a counsellor but I still worry about it. Is there something wrong with me physically or mentally or what? Please help!!!!!! I have had enough of embarrassing moments please help me!
2.   After I have ejaculated or had sex, I find it hard to gain another erection or become excited again. Is this normal, how can I boost my sexual performance and go again and again?
3.   All my friends talk about first , second & third base but I don't know what it is could you please explain?
4.   Before I have sex, my boyfriend usually fingers me, but lately I have noticed that my vagina inside swells up on one side and is really painful which makes sex really painful. And after when I go to the toilet it stings, and my vagina is really red where it has swollen, what is wrong with me?
5.   Can a virgin fall pregnant, and will my partner know if my hymen is broken?
6.   Can my boyfriend and I use a condom if we make love in the shower? If not, which kind of contraception can we use?
7.   Does semen carry carcinogenic properties? Does this mean I cannot swallow semen safely during oral sex?
8.   First time sex, what's it like?
9.   Hi. I was just wondering - I have been with my boyfriend for a while and we have been having sex but it always seems to hurt me. My boyfriend goes really fast and he says that I should go get checked out because I am very tight! Is there a problem or am is it just because we just started having sex a few months ago? Thanks.
10.   How can I protect myself from contracting the herpes virus, and what are the symptoms of the infection?